I'd like to say that it was purely a financial decision. That I only returned to work because it would have been financially impossible for us to live on one income. But truthfully, we could have managed. Money would have been really tight, but it wouldn't have been impossible.
I'd also like to say that it has been unbearable. That I have to pry my desperately clasped hands from my children as I drop them off at daycare each morning, and that I cry quietly to myself as I drive to the office each day. But I don't. On some days it is tough to say goodbye, but they love their daycare, and they know I'll come back and squeeze them with all that mama love that they've missed all day.
Yes there are days when I wonder if I've made the right decision.
Yes I miss my children every moment that we're apart. But my career is part of who I am, and working (outside of the home) is something I have to do. Not just for the money, but for me.
I have a theory (and a big emphasis on "theory" here) - that many women who were raised by stay at home moms, choose to do the same when they become mothers. The same seems to apply to women who were raised by career moms - they seem to grow to become career moms themselves.
It's a crazy busy life being a career mommy of two. It's a crazy busy life being a stay at home mommy too! In Canada, we're lucky enough to enjoy a full year of maternity leave, so I've experienced both sides, and I can truly say that they are both equally as challenging.
When it comes down to the decision to return to the office, or to stay at home full time, it's purely a personal decision, and for me, a career mommy was the right fit for me.
How about you? How did you make the decision? Did you follow in your mother's footsteps?